Ambivalence

"My problem with using EFT for weight loss is that I avoid it. Yes. For some reason, even though I KNOW that EFT will work, I don’t use it. I have a HUGE block to using EFT, most likely because I know that if I do it, I won’t be able to have my food fix. I need the comfort I guess. I am a very strong-minded person, and this is driving me nuts. If you can tell me how to rise above this block that keeps me from succeeding, and keeps me 60 plus pounds overweight, I will run, not walk to get your ebook."

Please help.
Sara

Dear Sara,

Ambivalence is a very strong force. Part of you wants to change and part of you doesn’t. You want to lose weight AND you don’t want to give up your food fix. Those 2 conflicting desires keep you stuck. You believe that in order to lose weight, you have to give up your food fix AND that if you give up your food fix, you won’t be able to handle it. Every time you try to lose weight, you get scared because you think you can’t have your food fix.

Then you sabotage yourself. Some people will not allow themselves to lose weight because they believe that they can never have their favorite foods again. It’s just not true, and if you believe that, it’s hard to be successful. The question is – how can you leverage the part of you that does want to change? One way is to question your limiting belief, i.e. "If I tap, I won’t get my food fix". Is that true? If you tap on that thought, you can shift out of your ambivalence.

P.S. Chapter 10 (Preventing Self-Sabotage) covers this in depth. Go to: http://www.LoseWeightWithEFT.com/

Carol Solomon
Psychologist, Master Certified Coach and Certified EFT Practitioner, Dr. Carol Solomon is one of the world’s leading experts in using Emotional Freedom Techniques to help people lose weight without dieting, stop binge eating, and reduce anxiety and stress. She is the author of 4 Books on Emotional Freedom Techniques, the EFT Tips Newsletter, the Binge Eating Teleseminar and the EFT Weight Loss CD. Carol has a thriving coaching practice and is passionate about helping others succeed.
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