New Treatments for Addictions

Do you struggle with addictions?

Can your addictions be cured?

Has the 12-step model failed for you?

In our last show, we talked about using EFT for food addictions. The truth is – if you are fighting with 1 addiction, you are probably struggling with other addictions too.

Join me and my guest, addictions specialist Bill Woods, to discuss new treatments for addictions, and how EFT and coaching can be used to augment addictions treatment.

Date: Thursday, June 28, 2012

Time: 12 noon Eastern Time

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Carol Solomon, Ph.D. MCC, is one of the world’s leading experts in using Emotional Freedom Techniques to help people lose weight without dieting. She is the author of 4 books on Emotional Freedom Techniques, the EFT Tips newsletter, the Binge Eating Teleseminar and the EFT Weight Loss CD. (http://www.EFTTips.com)

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Getting What You Want With EFT

I have an amazing video to share with you today. As Bob Proctor says in the film The Tapping Solution "People are starting to understand themselves as an energy field. And the fact that they can work with it to get the results they want."

And these experts aren't just saying they support EFT, they're saying that they use it on a regular basis and have had results with it.

2012 TWS Nick Ortner

 

This video goes deep into a technique that has been scientifically proven to change the brain, literally re-wiring it, to both eliminate unwanted negative traits, emotions and beliefs and enhance positive ones.

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I’m not a psychic and don’t pretend to know exactly what’s going on in your life but I do know one thing…

And that’s that people have similar patterns and that the #1 thing that all people want, and that I know you want, is to be emotionally fulfilled. 

Think about it for a second…if you want to be healthier and lose weight it’s because of how it will make you feel.

After all, wouldn’t you feel better if you were healthier.  Wouldn’t you feel more confident?

And if you want to be more financially successful, isn’t it really because of how you would feel being able to do whatever you wanted with financial freedom?

Wouldn’t you feel better if you had the choice to be able to travel, have a nicer home and nicer car and to be able to contribute more financially in helping others?

I could ask questions like this about your life on a number of different areas and I know I’d get the same response…we as humans do things to make us feel better and to be more emotionally fulfilled. 

So the important question is…how do you get to have more of what you want and have more emotional fulfillment?

The video on the page will show you how.

To your emotional fulfillment, you deserve it, (even if you don’t think you do.)

P.S. – The technique shown in this video was shown, in clinical tests, to reduce negative emotions like stress, anxiety, overwhelm and much more:

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Building Confidence With EFT

In my last radio show on EFT for Stress, Anxiety and Overeating, I worked with a woman whose husband had been laid off work. Having been out of the workforce for years, she was terrified at the thought that she may have to go back to work.

Keep these points in mind –

  • Confidence can be like energy – you can lose it and not have a clue how to get it back!
  • Trying to lose weight when you are also struggling with stress, anxiety and a loss of confidence is no easy task.
  • The EFT self-acceptance statement becomes even more critical – don’t leave it out!

I’m a huge fan of “What If” statements, and I used these to help her consider new possibilities:

  • What if I could find a way to relax about all of this?
  • What if it doesn’t have to be so difficult?
  • What if food can just be food?
  • What if I could find a way to get through this time, without comforting myself with food?
  • What if I allowed it to be easier?
  • What if I let myself feel the feelings, and let them flow through me?
  • What if this challenge somehow brought a huge surprise benefit to me?

This last “What IF” really resonated with her. Opening yourself up to new possibilities is a great way to reduce stress, and start to build your confidence.

EFT For Fear of Flying After 911

Dear Gary (Originally published on Emofree.com),

My client “Jay” was a corporate executive who became increasingly afraid to fly in the months after 911. He said that he had watched way too much news coverage and obsessed about it too long.

Jay needed to travel to corporate meetings, so it was quite disturbing to him when he felt more and more paralyzed. When he first came in, he was canceling all of his flights (about twice per month). Sometimes the anxiety would continue long before and after the plane flight. Jay felt claustrophobic, and he identified a number of different aspects – a fear of small spaces, fear of dying, fear of being unable to breathe, fear of being unable to see (while waiting for the plane to take off), fear of suffocating, etc. Jay felt disoriented and had physical symptoms – tightness in his chest, etc.

Jay had a history of panic attacks. Like many people who experience panic attacks, the worst fear is the fear of having another one. Anxious people tend to anticipate the worst and scare themselves with thoughts of what “could” happen. The anticipatory anxiety can feel unbearable.

We started with statements such as:

EFT For Anticipatory Anxiety

Even though I get anxious just thinking about the plane flight, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I am worried about the flight, I choose to know I can calm myself.

Even though I am scared every time I think about the flight, I choose to have complete

confidence in my ability to handle whatever comes.

Even though I am apprehensive about the flight, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I’m not certain how things will go, I choose to let it be fun and easy.

Even though I am afraid of having another panic attack, I deeply and completely accept myself.

EFT For Specific Fears

Even though I am afraid I won’t be able to breathe, I deeply love and accept myself.

Even though I am afraid of dying, I choose to feel safe and calm on the plane.

Even though I am afraid of suffocating, I choose to know there is plenty of air and I can breathe freely.

Even though I feel terrified to get on the plane, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though unexpected things can happen, I choose to stay relaxed and confident.

Even though I am afraid I won’t be able to see, and I’ll have to wait, I deeply love and accept myself.

Even though I feel overwhelmed, and I HATE how I feel, I choose to embrace all of my feelings.

EFT For Physical Symptoms

Even though my chest and gut feel tight, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though my palms are sweaty, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I feel like I can’t breathe, I deeply love and accept myself.

At this point, Jay was more confident, but there was still something there. I asked him about specific events in his past in which he may have had similar feelings.

He was able to identify one specific event from childhood. His older brother used to pin him
down under the covers. He was in complete darkness and couldn’t see or move. He felt completely panicked (which he described as “enveloped”) and had to struggle to breathe while he fought his way out. No wonder he was afraid of small spaces!

Even though I felt panicked and I had to get out, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I felt completely “enveloped”, I deeply and completely accept myself.
(Notice the importance of using the client’s own words).

Even though I couldn’t breathe, I deeply love and accept myself.

Even though I couldn’t move, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I was terrified and afraid I would never get out, I am open to the possibility of
forgiving my brother.

I helped Jay work through these issues and other anxiety-related issues over several months.

Neutralizing the emotions of this one event (although it happened more than once) brought his anxiety level down to a zero. The last time I saw him, I asked him how his recent plane flight had been. He answered in one word – Zero! Zero anxiety!

I recently had the opportunity to speak with him by phone. Now he flies regularly 2-4 times per month without fear or apprehension. It’s nice to know that we get lasting results with EFT. He even said that it’s fun!

With love,

Carol Solomon, Ph.D.
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Two Surrogate Tapping Cases: Dental Anxiety and Severe Stomach Ache

Carol Solomon, PhD gives us two useful examples of doing EFT surrogately for her daughter. Please note how specific she tends to be with the issues. That tends to help. Also, note how easy and simple it is to do. Surrogate EFT should be in everyone’s tool box.
Gary Craig (Originally Published on Emofree.com)

By Carol Solomon, PhD

Gary,

While I have used EFT for years, I never understood the concept of surrogate tapping. I often wondered how it could actually work. Then I realized one day that “it’s all energy” so of course, if I am tapping for another person and we share the same energy field, they would be impacted as well.

My daughter is 11 years old, too “cool” to tap, or to allow me to tap on her. However, she was nervous when she had to have some dental work done recently. The dental office is rather long and narrow. The place for the parent to sit is in the opposite corner of where the work takes place. While her work was being done, I was able to do surrogate tapping unobtrusively in my corner. I tapped on myself in the usual manner as if I was her. I spoke the words softly to myself.

Even though it is hard to relax . . . I know I can stay relaxed and calm.

Even though I am afraid it will hurt . . .

Even though I am not sure what is going to happen . . .

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EFT For Overeating And Panic Attacks

For 10 years, my client “Margie” had panic attacks in the middle of the night (approximately twice a month). She would wake up startled in the middle of the night and feel “very, very scared . . . panicked . . . not knowing what to do.” She had tightness in her chest and difficulty breathing. She felt like she was going to jump out of her skin.

Margie’s mother was depressed, very emotional and easily overwhelmed. Everything was “hard” for her, and whenever something was “hard,” it threw her off. She couldn’t handle it and became even more depressed.

Margie grew up telling herself that nothing was going to be “hard” for her and that she wouldn’t make a big deal out of anything. Growing up, everything was an issue, so Margie vowed not to let anything get to her. She thought that if she let anything get to her, it meant she was “weak,” like her mom.

Margie had sought my help to learn EFT for weight loss and overeating. Her way of getting things done was to eat her way through it. “I eat 3 cookies, and then I do the laundry.”

Margie thought her panic attacks were triggered by feeling overwhelmed by problems. Even though she wanted everything to be easy, she was easily flustered and “thrown off” by unexpected events. She would overeat during the day to cope, but whenever she felt “too emotional,” she had a panic attack at night. It was a terrifying experience.

Margie used to have to take medication to get back to sleep. Now, she starts tapping right away and it relieves the panicky feeling.

“Even though I feel really scared right now, I deeply love and accept myself.”
“Even though I feel alone and scared, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I don’t think I’ll get through this, I love and accept myself completely.”
“Even though it feels like the morning will never come, I totally love and accept myself.”
“Even though I feel weak, I love and accept myself anyway.”
“Even though I vowed that nothing would ever get to me, and I would always be strong, I deeply love and accept myself.”
“Even though it’s important to be stronger than my mother, I love and accept myself.”

Then around the body:

Feeling scared
Feeling alone
Can’t breathe
Feeling overwhelmed
I don’t know what to do
It feels like the morning will never come
I don’t think I’ll get through this
I’m afraid I’ll fall apart

Since I had taught Margie EFT for weight loss, she included those statements in her 2nd round. Notice the similarity between feeling out of control and panicky with her life and feeling out of control with her food and weight loss issues.

“Even though I feel like my eating is out of control, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I’m feeling fat, I love and accept myself anyway.”
“Even though I’m not strong enough to deal with my problems, I love and accept myself.”
“Even though I feel like I’ll never be strong enough and I’ll always be overweight, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I shouldn’t have any issues with my body, I love and accept myself.”

Then around the body:

Feeling scared
Feeling fat
I can’t control my eating
I’m not strong enough
It’s not ok to be weak
I have to be strong all the time
I shouldn’t be having this anxiety attack
I feel like I’m not going to make it

As she started to feel better, she added positive statements and did some deep breathing:

I have a choice. I’m not trapped.
I can choose to be ok.
I can calm down.
I am ok.
I am calm.

Margie views EFT as a “fool-proof method” to short-circuit her panic attacks. It only takes 1 or 2 rounds to stop the panic attack and get back to sleep. She has had only 1 attack in the past 4 months, and has not needed any medication. She has also significantly reduced her overeating.

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2 Minutes of EFT Took Away 40 Years of Fear

Carol, EFT has truly changed my life and I can’t thank you enough for opening my eyes to this wonderful tool and can’t wait to see how else it can improve my life. 

I have always been TERRIFIED of flying.  Onboard a plane, I shake and tremble and pray and wait for the worst to happen.  After deboarding, I have to sit and wait for my legs to stop trembling.  I’ve tried hypnotism, took a course online, tried having a drink, taking a pill…never felt anything but terror.  If you gave me free tickets to Hawaii, I would give them back to you as I wouldn’t even consider flying that far away. 

On the webinar series, I asked if EFT would help.  I was getting on a plane the next morning and already feeling terrified.  It was suggested that I do the tapping that night for ten or fifteen minutes and I tried to do that.  I must admit, I didn’t believe it would help and only “tapped” for about two or three minutes.  I couldn’t focus on it as I hadn’t packed yet.  I just tapped that I want to be like all the other passengers who don’t feel that fear. 

The next morning, I woke up calm, which was strange.  I kept that calm feeling all morning.  I only felt panic for one moment as I closed the front door to leave, worried that I had forgotten body soap, wondering what else I forgot.  I felt the terror well up, and mentioned to my husband who said, don’t worry, we’ll buy some.  I envisioned myself going to Walgreens and getting soap and felt so calm.  Could it be that I wasn’t worried about flying as much as being completely prepared and packed?   

I don’t know why I was so calm.  I laughed and slept and actually ENJOYED the flight.  I looked around and I was like everyone else on the plane.  Your suggestions and this two minute tapping gave me a peace I can’t even explain.  I didn’t tap before the flight home, because I knew I would never be afraid to fly on a plane again.   

You have opened up the world to me…I have never before been able to dream of traveling, why would I want to go anywhere that included flying.  I now dream of Australia, New Zealand, I can go anywhere, thanks to EFT. 

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you…you and EFT have changed my life. 

Patty Rutkowski

Carol's note: Thanks for writing, Patty! We've gotten used to these results with EFT, but I NEVER get tired of hearing about them! See my notes on Whoopie Goldberg's treatment for fear of flying on my Stress Eating Blog.

10 STEPS TO PEACE AND PROSPERITY: CAN EFT CHANGE THE GLOBAL ECONOMY?

While we often apply EFT to individuals and small groups, there’s no doubt that the global economy could use our help.

All this talk of the global economy reminds me of the 1993 study where researchers conducted a two-month prospective experiment to reduce violent crime in Washington, DC.

It was hypothesized that the level of violent crime in the District of Columbia would drop significantly with the creation of a large group of participants in 2 meditation programs. The goal was to increase coherence and reduce stress in the District.

The National Demonstration Project to Reduce Violent Crime and Improve Governmental Effectiveness brought approximately 4,000 participants in the meditation programs to the US capital from June 7 to July 30, 1993. There was a highly significant decrease in violent crimes (up to 23.3%) during the demonstration project. The statistical probability that this result could reflect chance variation in crime levels was less than 2 in 1 billion.

If large groups of meditators can contribute to a reduction of violent crime rate in a city, then could a large group of people using EFT have a significant effect on the global economy?

One of the biggest factors in crime rate is poverty. It is safe to assume that if the global economy continues to decline, then both poverty rates and crime rates will increase. The sheer force in numbers of people using EFT around the world could have a significant impact.

Ernest Holmes said “where your mind goes, energy flows.” Whatever you concentrate on, you empower. Here are 10 suggestions for adopting positive practices that could impact both your own and the world’s economic status:

1. Do a 5-minute meditation on love (the opposite of fear) and/or prosperity every day. When the 5 minutes are up, use EFT statements to increase positive emotion and decrease anxiety, such as:

Even though the stock market has drastically changed, I love and accept myself completely.

Even though I have less money than I did before, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I’m anxious and fearful about what will happen, I deeply love and accept myself.

2. Incorporate gratitude exercises to focus on what you DO have, instead of what you DON’T have. This practice counteracts the fear of loss and catastrophe, and keeps a positive focus.

Even though my situation is different now, I choose to focus on what I have.

Even though things have changed, I am grateful for my safety and wellbeing.

Even though I am scared sometimes, I am grateful for my family and my health.

3. Quiet the mind. Processes like EFT and meditation help you go into ‘observer’ mode. They quiet the mind and develop your ‘observer’ quality. In meditation, they call it the ‘watchful’ quality or the ‘witness’ – the ability to take a step back and observe yourself in a calm and nonreactive way.

It’s not a matter of wrestling with the mind, but a process of quieting and disempowering it’s influence. The observer is not trying to fix everything immediately, but observe nonjudgmentally, like a sportscaster. Borrow from meditation and take a step back and observe what is happening and your reaction to whatever is scaring you. This will help you to be more objective and to remain calm. Sometimes the ‘witness’ position is the only sanctuary we have.

4. Maintain mental clarity. Anxiety can cause your mind to become clouded if you become caught up in fearful expectations. If you hear bad news, negative feelings can escalate and prevent you from taking helpful action. The most important goal during highly anxious moments is to retain mental clarity and composure. The first order of business is to slow your breathing down in order to turn off the emergency response.

Even though I am afraid for the future, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Tap around the body and focus on what you know and what you have for sure.

EB: I know I am safe in this moment.
SE: I know there are people that love me and will help me.
UE: I know that I have enough reserves to get by on.
UN: Right now, in this moment, I have enough.
CH: Right now, in this moment, I am enough.
CB: I have gotten through difficult times before.
UA: I am loved.

The second order of business is to stay rational and keep your mind clear, so that you can give yourself instructions. This is often easier said than done.

It’s like when your car breaks down in the middle of nowhere. You need to quiet your mind so that you can think and problem solve. You ask your children to be quiet so that you can think of what to do next, but they sense the tension and start talking more, in a more frenetic way, getting louder and louder. It just adds to your frustration and fear. You can’t hear yourself think and you just get more panicky by the minute.

Your mind can be like those children. Your thoughts are racing and the “noise” in the system gets louder and louder. It is exactly what you don’t need. This can also happen on a global level, where anxiety becomes the fabric of our collective consciousness.

Slowing down your runaway thoughts allows you to tune into more subtle internal cues, so that you can attend to them sooner. If you develop your capacity to self-observe, you are then able to focus on 1 thing at a time. You are more aware of stressful circumstances without overreacting. Use neutral language, such as “this situation” instead of “this crisis.”

Even though this situation seems grim, I choose to remain calm and focused.

5. Soothe anxiety with calming thoughts. People experiencing extreme anxiety make 2 mistakes: you scare yourself with thoughts of what ‘could’ happen, and you overfocus on your body and underfocus on what you can ‘do’ to stay calm.

When your “mind” takes over and makes you scared (it loves to think about the worst case scenario), use EFT to neutralize the fear and clear excess worry.

Even though I am scared right now, I choose to stay calm.

Even though I am not sure what the future will bring, I choose to stay focused on the present.

Even though our leaders don’t even agree on what to do, I choose to remain calm.

6. Erase and replace. See the world as prosperous. Examine your beliefs about scarcity and change them into beliefs about abundance. As you affirm your abundance, you may notice that you need to work on being open to receiving, and believing that you deserve to have abundance. Use EFT to change your programming and erase any “tail enders” that surface:

Even though part of me is still worried, I love and accept myself completely.

Even though I still feel afraid, I choose to focus on my prosperity.

Even though the future is uncertain, I align with my vision of prosperity.

7. Reinforce your own strength, wellbeing and capacity to handle whatever comes.

Even though I’m not sure what will happen, I choose to know I can handle whatever comes.

Even though I don’t know what’s going to happen, I choose to find strength in what I know now.

8. Use EFT in groups. From my own practice, I’ve noticed that tapping in groups of like-minded people seems to amplify it’s effects.

9. Eliminate all sources of negativity as much as possible. Anxiousness is contagious. Avoid listening to negative people and repeated reports of the same old bad news. Fear increases when you worry about the past or the future. This practice will help you stay in the present. Ultimately, the goal is to be able to feel calm no matter what is happening around you.

10. In order to get through difficult times, it may pay to view it as a spiritual journey. There is a great spiritual maturity in accepting who you are and where you are now. Where there is fear, there is opportunity. This is a great opportunity to get your priorities in order and to consider what is most important in life.

Choose a prosperous mantra and repeat it as you tap throughout the day, such as:

The world is conspiring in my favor.

Today I choose to focus on my source, which is my unlimited supply.

Right now, in this moment, I have everything I need.

I love myself enough to allow more money to flow into my life.

Right now, in this moment, the world is healing itself.

Tap into your inner prosperity and avoid getting caught up in the worldwide panic and anxiousness. It’s quite possible that as we use EFT to reduce our own anxiety around finances and increase our focus on abundance, our influence will spread and the global economy will improve. Here’s to making a difference!

Emotional Freedom Techniques for Anxiety

Anxiety is primarily about the future — something that you are worried *might* happen. Soothing anxiety is one of the biggest causes of  overeating. I love Gary’s comments on anxiety eating and my post about my client’s similarities between overeating and panic attacks. And if you’ve ever had a panic attack, you know that it’s not an experience you want to repeat.

Anxiety tends to build and take on a life of it’s own. People who have anxious temperaments tend to obsess and catastrophize about what *could* happen. But we all suffer from anxious feelings from time to time. So getting a handle on your anxiety is a very good thing to do.

To use Emotional Freedom Techniques to lessen your anxiety, try to stay in the present moment and follow these 3 steps:

1. Make a list of all of the things you are afraid might happen, even if they sound ridiculous and you know in your *logical* mind they would never happen.

2. Rank them in terms of how worried you are about each one.

3. Tap on each one, starting with the most intense (if you can — if not, start with something that is less intense and work your way up). Notice how much calmer you feel.

If you use this practice on a regular basis, you will feel much calmer, and shed a lot of weight with all that fretting and worrying gone! For more info, go to Stop Anxiety With EFT