EFT and Ice Cream Cravings – Jannie’s Story

I teach a 3-week teleclass on “EFT for Weight Loss.” On the first call, I have people bring food to the call, so we can tap for cravings in the moment. After the first round, almost everyone’s craving was down, except 1 woman, who I’ll call “Jannie.”

Jannie was tapping on her craving for ice cream, although she didn’t bring it to the call because “unless someone delivered it as I dialed in, I would have eaten it the minute it came in the house!”

We tapped for cravings:

Even though I have this craving, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I really want this food right now, I deeply accept myself with compassion and grace.
Even though I have this urge to eat, I choose to find a new and surprising way to manage the craving.

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Is It Safe To Lose Weight?

Hi Everyone,

Carol Solomon, PhD successfully focuses on an important issue for her binge-eating client. Note both the background story and the language details. Please consult physicians on all medical issues.

Gary Craig (Originally published on Emofree.com)

By Carol Solomon, PhD

Dear Gary,

Sue was a binge eater who seemed to sabotage herself at every turn. She tried everything and lost weight many times, only to gain it back and more. She described her eating as being “like a runaway train. She ate to relieve stress. She ate to celebrate. She ate for every emotion she ever felt. And she felt like a failure.

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EFT Success For A Binge Eater

Hi Everyone,

Carol Solomon, PhD gives important insights regarding a successful Binge Eating case. Afterwards, her client says, “For the first time in my LIFE ” on Monday night, I was given a chocolate at the end of Christmas meal with friends at a restaurant and I put it to my mouth to take a bite (habit – “in my mouth before I thought about it) and it was too sweet and I was too full ” and I held (HELD) the last 2/3rd’s of it in my fingers for over 10 minutes as we were all saying goodbye and I threw it in a bin (THREW IT OUT) on the way to my car!!!”

Gary Craig (Originally published on Emofree.com)

By Carol Solomon, Ph.D.

Dear Gary,

To a binge eater, having ONE experience where you feel comfortable in your own skin is a success ” throwing away food (because you didn’t want it) is a major breakthrough. A day without binging can feel like a miracle.

I have worked with Carla for 4 sessions. She had a traumatic childhood (an abusive father). She associated food with survival, the only thing she could give herself for comfort. As a child, she promised herself that when she grew up, she could have whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted.

Carla already knew that EFT worked, since she used it to eliminate her need for her asthma inhaler. But she had not been able to stop binge eating. This problem can permeate everything you do. Carla had her life on hold. She wanted to build her business and start a new relationship, but everything felt too risky. The world was not a safe place.

First, we tapped on her belief that she can’t have what she wants, so she substitutes food.

Even though I believe I can’t have what I want, so I settle for food”

Even though I can’t face my life without food ”

Even though I can’t stand feeling empty ” and I need to stuff my feelings”

Then we tapped on her fear of promoting herself, of making mistakes, of the consequences of those mistakes and her fear of being judged.

Even though I’m too scared to promote my business or myself ” it’s not safe”

Even though I’m afraid of being judged ” my father was harsh and critical”

Even though I’m afraid to make mistakes ” because when I make mistakes I get in trouble”

Finally, we tapped on one specific traumatic event, her sense of feeling unsafe in the world and using food to ward off feelings of emptiness.

Even though life just doesn’t feel safe”

Even though I need food to get this safe, anchored feeling”

Even though my mistakes have cost me dearly, I now love and forgive myself.

Even though this event was terrifying and I still feel ashamed ” that was then, and this is now”

Even though I’m still trying to keep myself safe”

Even though this keeps me on an emotional roller coaster”

Even though I still want to eat what I want, I choose to be peacefully in control around food.

Even though I don’t want to be told what to do, I choose to let hunger guide my eating.

Even though I can do what I want, but I think I can’t”

Even though I think life will be bleak and boring and empty without my treats”

Even though I use treats to ward off these empty feelings”

Here is Carla’s letter to me:

Hi there Carol,

Just wanted to update you that I seem to have had a breakthrough with our last session (although elements of earlier sessions now accessible all at the same time)!

Have not binged since Saturday’s call without white knuckling (!!!!!) and I have in fact been having 3 regular (full of real food, but not grotesque quantities – “just regular sized full of variety) meals!!!

For the first time in my LIFE ” on Monday night, I was given a chocolate at the end of Christmas meal with friends at a restaurant and I put it to my mouth to take a bite (habit – “in my mouth before I thought about it) and it was too sweet and I was too full ” and I held (HELD) the last 2/3rd’s of it in my fingers for over 10 minutes as we were all saying goodbye and I threw it in a bin (THREW IT OUT) on the way to my car!!!

I watched all the team at work pig-out on candy-coloured donuts at 9:30 a.m. and couldn’t imagine anything worse so joined them without eating, without feeling like I cared what they thought (and they didn’t!) and I was totally comfortable with it (COMFORTABLE)!

I have re-tapped to Saturday’s recording several times. I have also been tapping on more words around the language you have given me ““that was then, this is now’ (really powerful) – “especially lots of tapping/words coming to me easily around the promise I made to myself that was so strong through my childhood – “my daily survival mantra – “(i.e. that when I grew up I could have whatever, whenever (i.e. food) and so I have really believed to my emotional core that food was the path, and only path, to my happiness.

It has ““clicked’ in me that actually that was then, and was a little muddled, albeit well intentioned and I can still honour my promise just in a way that leads to my happiness by allowing (another word you have given me) to be open to the things I want.

The tapping also seems to have kind of wired me up to comfortably connect with the new thought that salad and fish or salad and steak (SALAD and MEAT and no DESSERT (what is going on??? – ” – “) is actually the path to my happiness. I have always been able to physically feel better eating regular sized meals and easily digestible foods but my emotional drive to eat fast food fast, and lots of it, has always outweighed my physical discomfort every time.

These last few days feel profoundly different to me. My words to you are not sufficient for explaining right now – “but they will do to give you an idea of how I feel so different!

I am nervous it won’t last, so am tapping on that too. But that is the point, I am tapping (not refusing to tap), and allowing myself to buy and prepare food, and to go to bed on time, and do the things that I want to do (rather than assume it is too hard or scary and cop out and eat instead).

Today, I have the energy that comes from not being so fueled only by junk food – “amazing – “so in itself, it is a relief.

It is unbelievably exciting – “because I am not ““trying.’ Today is Thursday, we spoke Saturday and it has sort of just happened. It also feels like I have had a ““click’ in that I have been allowing myself to distract myself from the habit of imagining constantly the calculations for the 40 kilos to come off in just a few weeks so that I magically get thin fast. I am feeling I can focus on just living and for 3 days have had no problem with taking timeout of work or activity to have a proper meal. No Coca Cola in site”

And on and on I could go ”

Much love and appreciation,

Carla

Carol’s note: As practitioners, we have this driving need to help people, and it’s easy to forget how much we make a difference in people’s lives and in the world. When I receive letters like this from clients ” I remember ” and I am grateful for EFT and all of the wonderful practitioners who have dedicated their lives to helping others.

With love,

Carol Solomon, Ph.D.

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Binge Eating Gone In 12 Sessions After Hundreds Of Hours In Traditional Therapy Failed

Binge eating has many emotional roots, many of which are often outside the client’s awareness. Listen in as Carol Solomon, PhD helps her client discover, and resolve, several such issues. (Gary Craig, Originally published on Emofree.com)

By Carol Solomon, Ph.D. MCC

My client, Carla, was aching to stop binge eating so that she could become more slender.  As much as she wanted to lose weight, Carla viewed thin people as vulnerable, exposed and weak.  She somehow feared that she would “blow away in the wind” if she became thin.  She thought she was being “shallow” in her beliefs about thin people, but it turned out to be much deeper than that – several core emotional issues emerged.

Even though I think thin people are weak, and I don’t want to be like them, I love and accept myself completely.

Even though I’m afraid I’ll blow away in the wind if I don’t eat enough…

Even though I think thin people are exposed and vulnerable…

Even though I’m not sure what this means, or how I came to believe this … it feels threatening … like I might not even exist if I don’t eat enough.

Reminder Phrases:
Thin people are weak
Thin people are vulnerable
Thin people are exposed
They can’t protect themselves
I don’t want to be like them
I might blow away in the wind
It doesn’t feel safe to lose weight
I don’t know what this means, but it feels like some scary times I had in my past … like my very existence was threatened.

Through this sequence, Carla made some important connections.  As a child, Carla’s parents made her eat 3 meals per day, “so that she wouldn’t get too thin,” but restricted her from eating junk food.

Carla often felt deprived, so she would binge eat in secret, and then eat her meals anyway, so her parents wouldn’t suspect that she was binging.  Whatever she was deprived of … that’s what she craved.  As an adult, Carla could not restrict herself to 3 regular meals without feeling deprived.

As a child, Carla had been abused.  She “waited” to get through childhood, promising herself she could have and do whatever she wanted.  As an adult, she refused to constrain her food choices and hated being told what to do. (She had a little 5-year-old inside, who was stomping her feet and refusing to compromise).

Even though I’ve been waiting my whole life to get through childhood, so I can have whatever I want and do whatever I want…

Even though I HATE being told what to do … no diet is going to tell me what to do…

Even though I don’t like to wait … I want to have it right away … and I’m afraid it won’t be enough…

Even though I refuse to be “without” even though it’s costing me…

Reminder Phrases:
I don’t like to wait
I have to have it right now
I might not get through the day
It won’t be enough
I refuse to be without
I WILL have what I want
No one is going to tell me what to do
You can’t make me (the voice of the 5-year-old inside)

At this point, Carla began to describe her childhood abuse, in which she endured numerous instances of being hit and/or witnessing her brother being hit by her father.  Like many trauma victims, Carla would dissociate during the abuse.  “I could disconnect my head off my shoulders.  I could leave my body and be really still.”

Carla knew that “being really still” was the key to her survival.  As much as the abuse hurt, struggling or running would have made it much worse.  Carla’s survival mode was to imagine that all of her weight was going down into her feet.  Being “weighted down” would keep her from running and minimize the abuse.  She even imagined herself wearing leaded boots that would anchor her.

Carla also believed that if she kept a layer of padding (extra weight) on her body, the abuse would be less painful.  If the padding wasn’t there, she would have no protection. As an adult, she still thought that the “padding” kept her safe.  It didn’t feel safe to lose weight.

Even though I had my lead boots on for my own protection, and I made myself stand still and “take it,” I choose to know that I can now be free, and it IS safe to lose weight.

Even though this heaviness held me in the spot and that served me in the past, I deeply and completely accept myself for what I had to do.

Even though it feels scary to lose weight, and to be without padding, I love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I’m afraid to be like those thin people, I choose to know that I can lose weight and still be safe.

Reminder Phrases:
I had my lead boots on
So I wouldn’t float away
I was just a child
But I was smart enough to know what I had to do
To not make it any worse
I wanted to run
I was terrified
But I knew it would only make it worse
So I made myself “take it”
I was so strong
I knew what I had to do and I did it
But it was a horrible situation
My heaviness kept me strong
But I don’t need that anymore
I am safe
I am strong
I don’t need to wait any longer, and I don’t need to “weight” myself
I choose to release this heaviness and this padding
I don’t need it anymore
I can be safe without it
I am safe
I’ve endured so much as a child, and I honor myself for how hard it’s been
That was then . . . and this is now
I can take those lead boots off
I can be strong AND thin
It has nothing to do with food.

Carla was incredibly relieved to make these connections.  Her binge eating is greatly decreased, and she can now eat 3 healthy meals per day without feeling rebellious.

I have worked with Carla for 12 sessions.  She was astounded by her progress using EFT compared to traditional therapy.  Her question to me at the end of this session was “How can I have accomplished more in 12 sessions, than I have spending thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours in traditional therapy?” That’s EFT!

With love,

Carol Solomon, Ph.D. MCC

EFT For Overeating And Panic Attacks

For 10 years, my client “Margie” had panic attacks in the middle of the night (approximately twice a month). She would wake up startled in the middle of the night and feel “very, very scared . . . panicked . . . not knowing what to do.” She had tightness in her chest and difficulty breathing. She felt like she was going to jump out of her skin.

Margie’s mother was depressed, very emotional and easily overwhelmed. Everything was “hard” for her, and whenever something was “hard,” it threw her off. She couldn’t handle it and became even more depressed.

Margie grew up telling herself that nothing was going to be “hard” for her and that she wouldn’t make a big deal out of anything. Growing up, everything was an issue, so Margie vowed not to let anything get to her. She thought that if she let anything get to her, it meant she was “weak,” like her mom.

Margie had sought my help to learn EFT for weight loss and overeating. Her way of getting things done was to eat her way through it. “I eat 3 cookies, and then I do the laundry.”

Margie thought her panic attacks were triggered by feeling overwhelmed by problems. Even though she wanted everything to be easy, she was easily flustered and “thrown off” by unexpected events. She would overeat during the day to cope, but whenever she felt “too emotional,” she had a panic attack at night. It was a terrifying experience.

Margie used to have to take medication to get back to sleep. Now, she starts tapping right away and it relieves the panicky feeling.

“Even though I feel really scared right now, I deeply love and accept myself.”
“Even though I feel alone and scared, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I don’t think I’ll get through this, I love and accept myself completely.”
“Even though it feels like the morning will never come, I totally love and accept myself.”
“Even though I feel weak, I love and accept myself anyway.”
“Even though I vowed that nothing would ever get to me, and I would always be strong, I deeply love and accept myself.”
“Even though it’s important to be stronger than my mother, I love and accept myself.”

Then around the body:

Feeling scared
Feeling alone
Can’t breathe
Feeling overwhelmed
I don’t know what to do
It feels like the morning will never come
I don’t think I’ll get through this
I’m afraid I’ll fall apart

Since I had taught Margie EFT for weight loss, she included those statements in her 2nd round. Notice the similarity between feeling out of control and panicky with her life and feeling out of control with her food and weight loss issues.

“Even though I feel like my eating is out of control, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I’m feeling fat, I love and accept myself anyway.”
“Even though I’m not strong enough to deal with my problems, I love and accept myself.”
“Even though I feel like I’ll never be strong enough and I’ll always be overweight, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
“Even though I shouldn’t have any issues with my body, I love and accept myself.”

Then around the body:

Feeling scared
Feeling fat
I can’t control my eating
I’m not strong enough
It’s not ok to be weak
I have to be strong all the time
I shouldn’t be having this anxiety attack
I feel like I’m not going to make it

As she started to feel better, she added positive statements and did some deep breathing:

I have a choice. I’m not trapped.
I can choose to be ok.
I can calm down.
I am ok.
I am calm.

Margie views EFT as a “fool-proof method” to short-circuit her panic attacks. It only takes 1 or 2 rounds to stop the panic attack and get back to sleep. She has had only 1 attack in the past 4 months, and has not needed any medication. She has also significantly reduced her overeating.

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EFT For Binge Eating CD

Binge eating is ENTIRELY solvable. I define it as a *meltdown*. It has a very predictable cycle, and once you get past a certain point in the binge cycle, it’s very hard to turn back. It looks like this:

Triggering Event –> Tension Builds –> Vapor Lock –> Meltdown (Binge)

Being a former binge eater myself, I’ve written several articles, led teleseminars on how to stop binge eating with EFT and without EFT, and written a book on using EFT for binge eating. I have turned the teleseminar into a binge eating CD.

And as always, EFT CDS make wonderful holiday gifts (for yourself, your clients, your family and friends).

Binge Eating: EFT vs. Traditional Therapy

If you have ever tried traditional therapy for food and weight issues, you know that most therapists don’t have the answers.

Let me be the first to say that it’s not their fault.

It’s an insidious problem and most therapists don’t have specific training in this area.

EFT was originally developed to shave years off the process of traditional therapy.

It works.

With EFT, you may have to dig a little deeper, but there is always hope.

And it’s always worth it.

My client, Carla, was aching to stop binge eating so that she could become more slender.  As much as she wanted to lose weight, Carla viewed thin people as vulnerable, exposed and weak.  She somehow feared that she would “blow away in the wind” if she became thin.  She thought she was being “shallow” in her beliefs about thin people, but it turned out to be much deeper than that – several core emotional issues emerged.

Even though I think thin people are weak, and I don’t want to be like them, I love and accept myself completely.

Even though I’m afraid I’ll blow away in the wind if I don’t eat enough…

Even though I think thin people are exposed and vulnerable…

Even though I’m not sure what this means, or how I came to believe this … it feels threatening … like I might not even exist if I don’t eat enough.

Reminder Phrases:
Thin people are weak
Thin people are vulnerable
Thin people are exposed
They can’t protect themselves
I don’t want to be like them
I might blow away in the wind
It doesn’t feel safe to lose weight
I don’t know what this means, but it feels like some scary times I had in my past … like my very existence was threatened.

Through this sequence, Carla made some important connections.  As a child, Carla’s parents made her eat 3 meals per day, “so that she wouldn’t get too thin,” but restricted her from eating junk food.

Carla often felt deprived, so she would binge eat in secret, and then eat her meals anyway, so her parents wouldn’t suspect that she was binging.  Whatever she was deprived of … that’s what she craved.  As an adult, Carla could not restrict herself to 3 regular meals without feeling deprived.

As a child, Carla had been abused.  She “waited” to get through childhood, promising herself she could have and do whatever she wanted.  As an adult, she refused to constrain her food choices and hated being told what to do. (She had a little 5-year-old inside, who was stomping her feet and refusing to compromise).

Even though I’ve been waiting my whole life to get through childhood, so I can have whatever I want and do whatever I want…

Even though I HATE being told what to do … no diet is going to tell me what to do…

Even though I don’t like to wait … I want to have it right away … and I’m afraid it won’t be enough…

Even though I refuse to be “without” even though it’s costing me…

Reminder Phrases:
I don’t like to wait
I have to have it right now
I might not get through the day
It won’t be enough
I refuse to be without
I WILL have what I want
No one is going to tell me what to do
You can’t make me (the voice of the 5-year-old inside)

At this point, Carla began to describe her childhood abuse, in which she endured numerous instances of being hit and/or witnessing her brother being hit by her father.  Like many trauma victims, Carla would dissociate during the abuse.  “I could disconnect my head off my shoulders.  I could leave my body and be really still.”

Carla knew that “being really still” was the key to her survival.  As much as the abuse hurt, struggling or running would have made it much worse.  Carla’s survival mode was to imagine that all of her weight was going down into her feet.  Being “weighted down” would keep her from running and minimize the abuse.  She even imagined herself wearing leaded boots that would anchor her.

Carla also believed that if she kept a layer of padding (extra weight) on her body, the abuse would be less painful.  If the padding wasn’t there, she would have no protection. As an adult, she still thought that the “padding” kept her safe.  It didn’t feel safe to lose weight.

Even though I had my lead boots on for my own protection, and I made myself stand still and “take it,” I choose to know that I can now be free, and it IS safe to lose weight.

Even though this heaviness held me in the spot and that served me in the past, I deeply and completely accept myself for what I had to do.

Even though it feels scary to lose weight, and to be without padding, I love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I’m afraid to be like those thin people, I choose to know that I can lose weight and still be safe.

Reminder Phrases:
I had my lead boots on
So I wouldn’t float away
I was just a child
But I was smart enough to know what I had to do
To not make it any worse
I wanted to run
I was terrified
But I knew it would only make it worse
So I made myself “take it”
I was so strong
I knew what I had to do and I did it
But it was a horrible situation
My heaviness kept me strong
But I don’t need that anymore
I am safe
I am strong
I don’t need to wait any longer, and I don’t need to “weight” myself
I choose to release this heaviness and this padding
I don’t need it anymore
I can be safe without it
I am safe
I’ve endured so much as a child, and I honor myself for how hard it’s been
That was then . . . and this is now
I can take those lead boots off
I can be strong AND thin
It has nothing to do with food.

Carla was incredibly relieved to make these connections.  Her binge eating is greatly decreased, and she can now eat 3 healthy meals per day without feeling rebellious.

I have worked with Carla for 12 sessions.  She was astounded by her progress using EFT compared to traditional therapy.  Her question to me at the end of this session was “How can I have accomplished more in 12 sessions, than I have spending thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours in traditional therapy?” That’s EFT!

With love,

Carol Solomon, Ph.D. MCC

EFT for Stress Eating

Got stress? Most people do . . . and it’s easy to reach for food or some other substance to deal with it.

Feeling the need for chocolate?

Take a look at the sources of stress in your life, and see if your list has increased or intensified in some way. For instance, I’ve been doing some home remodeling lately — I underestimated how stressful it would be. When I took a survey of all of the changes we were making at one time — no wonder I was feeling the pressure! Fortunately, I didn’t reach for food, but I did lose sleep over it.

Make EFT a practice!

With EFT, it’s best to tap daily before stress builds up.

Even simple, general statements can do some good when practiced on a daily basis. These statements helped me get through my recent home remodeling project:

Even though I’m making a lot of changes, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though some of these changes are hard and stressful, I know I can adapt.
Even though this process is far more difficult than I anticipated, I know I’ll get through it.
Even though I feel like I’m making the wrong decisions, I deeply love and accept myself anyway.

Tapping every night after the workers left helped me to calm down and sleep better.

To read more on EFT for Anxiety (and managing my home remodeling project), go to: http://www.StopAnxietyWithEFT.com 

EFT for Binge Eating

Here’s my latest article published by Gary Craig, in case you missed it:

Carol Solomon, PhD gives important insights regarding a successful Binge Eating case. Afterwards, her client says,”For the first time in my LIFE … on Monday night, I was given a chocolate at the end of Christmas meal with friends at a restaurant and I put it to my mouth to take a bite (habit – in  my mouth before I thought about it) and it was too sweet and I was too full … and I held (HELD) the last 2/3rd’s of it in my fingers for over 10 minutes as we were all saying goodbye and I threw it in a bin (THREW IT OUT) on the way to my car!!!”

Dear Gary,

To a binge eater, having ONE experience where you feel comfortable in your own skin is a success … throwing away food (because you didn’t want it) is a major breakthrough.  A day without binging can feel like a miracle.

I have worked with Carla for 4 sessions.  She had a traumatic childhood (an abusive father). She associated food with survival, the only thing she could give herself for comfort.  As a child, she promised herself that when she grew up, she could have whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted.

Carla already knew that EFT worked, since she used it to eliminate her need for her asthma inhaler.  But she had not been able to stop binge eating.  This problem can permeate everything you do.  Carla had her life on hold.  She wanted to build her business and start a new relationship, but everything felt too risky.  The world was not a safe place.

First, we tapped on her belief that she can’t have what she wants, so she substitutes food.

Even though I believe I can’t have what I want, so I settle for food…

Even though I can’t face my life without food …

Even though I can’t stand feeling empty … and I need to stuff my feelings…

Then we tapped on her fear of promoting herself, of making mistakes, of the consequences of those mistakes and her fear of being judged.

Even though I’m too scared to promote my business or myself … it’s not safe…

Even though I’m afraid of being judged … my father was harsh and critical…

Even though I’m afraid to make mistakes … because when I make mistakes I get in trouble…

Finally, we tapped on one specific traumatic event, her sense of feeling unsafe in the world and using food to ward off feelings of emptiness.

Even though life just doesn’t feel safe…

Even though I need food to get this safe, anchored feeling…

Even though my mistakes have cost me dearly, I now love and forgive myself.

Even though this event was terrifying and I still feel ashamed … that was then, and this is now…

Even though I’m still trying to keep myself safe…

Even though this keeps me on an emotional roller coaster…

Even though I still want to eat what I want, I choose to be peacefully in control around food.

Even though I don’t want to be told what to do, I choose to let hunger guide my eating.

Even though I can do what I want, but I think I can’t…

Even though I think life will be bleak and boring and empty without my treats…

Even though I use treats to ward off these empty feelings…

Here is Carla’s letter to me:

Hi there Carol,

Just wanted to update you that I seem to have had a breakthrough with our last session (although elements of earlier sessions now accessible all at the same time)!

Have not binged since Saturday’s call without white knuckling (!!!!!) and I have in fact been having 3 regular (full of real food, but not grotesque quantities – just regular sized full of variety) meals!!!

For the first time in my LIFE … on Monday night, I was given a chocolate at the end of Christmas meal with friends at a restaurant and I put it to my mouth to take a bite (habit – in  my mouth before I thought about it) and it was too sweet and I was too full … and I held (HELD) the last 2/3rd’s of it in my fingers for over 10 minutes as we were all saying goodbye and I threw it in a bin (THREW IT OUT) on the way to my car!!!

I watched all the team at work pig-out on candy-coloured donuts at 9:30 a.m. and couldn’t imagine anything worse so joined them without eating, without feeling like I cared what they thought (and they didn’t!) and I was totally comfortable with it (COMFORTABLE)!

I have re-tapped to Saturday’s recording several times.  I have also been tapping on more words around the language you have given me ‘that was then, this is now’ (really powerful) – especially lots of tapping/words coming to me easily around the promise I made to myself that was so strong through my childhood – my daily survival mantra – (i.e. that when I grew up I could have whatever, whenever (i.e. food) and so I have really believed to my emotional core that food was the path, and only path, to my happiness.

It has ‘clicked’ in me that actually that was then, and was a little muddled, albeit well intentioned and I can still honour my promise just in a way that leads to my happiness by allowing (another word you have given me) to be open to the things I want.

The tapping also seems to have kind of wired me up to comfortably connect with the new thought that salad and fish or salad and steak (SALAD and MEAT and no DESSERT (what is going on??? – <grins> – ) is actually the path to my happiness.  I have always been able to physically feel better eating regular sized meals and easily digestible foods but my emotional drive to eat fast food fast, and lots of it, has always outweighed my physical discomfort every time.

These last few days feel profoundly different to me.  My words to you are not sufficient for explaining right now – but they will do to give you an idea of how I feel so different!

I am nervous it won’t last, so am tapping on that too.  But that is the point, I am tapping (not refusing to tap), and allowing myself to buy and prepare food, and to go to bed on time, and do the things that I want to do (rather than assume it is too hard or scary and cop out and eat instead).

Today, I have the energy that comes from not being so fueled only by junk food – amazing – so in itself, it is a relief.

It is unbelievably exciting – because I am not ‘trying.’  Today is Thursday, we spoke Saturday and it has sort of just happened.  It also feels like I have had a ‘click’ in that I have been allowing myself to distract myself from the habit of imagining constantly the calculations for the 40 kilos to come off in just a few weeks so that I magically get thin fast.  I am feeling I can focus on just living and for 3 days have had no problem with taking timeout of work or activity to have a proper meal.  No Coca Cola in site…

And on and on I could go …

Much love and appreciation,

Carla

Carol’s note: As practitioners, we have this driving need to help people, and it’s easy to forget how much we make a difference in people’s lives and in the world.  When I receive letters like this from clients … I remember … and I am grateful for EFT and all of the wonderful practitioners who have dedicated their lives to helping others.

With love,

Carol Solomon, Ph.D.