I was recently diagnosed with a “frozen shoulder,” a condition that can come on suddenly or over time, especially in women. My shoulder ached at night and I had tightness, pain and a limited range of motion when I worked out. My doctor prescribed physical therapy, and told me that it would get better, but it would take 1 ½ – 3 years to fully recover.
I thought I could probably do better with EFT, so I asked my friend, Bob Huffman, an experienced EFT practitioner, to do an EFT session with me. There was no obvious precipitant, so the first question he asked was: “If there was an emotional cause, what would it be?”
The only thing I could think of was that I felt “stuck” in parts of my business and didn’t know which direction to take it. We tapped for both the tightness in the business and the shoulder.
Even though I have this pain in my shoulder, I deeply love and accept myself.
Even though I feel this tightness when I raise my arm, I accept myself completely.
Even though it feels tight when I raise my arm, I love and accept myself completely.
Even though I feel stuck in my business, I love and accept myself.
Even though I’m not sure how to move forward, I accept myself.
Even though I feel stuck and frozen, I accept myself completely.
EB: This pain in my shoulder
SE: This tightness in my shoulder
UE: My shoulder hurts
UN: This awkward feeling
CH: This stiff feeling in my shoulder
CB: It hurts to move it
UA: I can’t move it the way I want without pain
TH: My shoulder feels tight and awkward
EB: This tight feeling
SE: I feel stuck
UE: Part of me feels stuck in my business.
UN: I’m not sure how to move it.
CH: I choose to move freely
CB: I deserve to move freely without pain
UA: I love moving freely and without pain
TH: I deserve to move easily and be pain-free
Then we did more rounds focused specifically on the range of motion.
Even though it hurts to raise my arm, I love and accept myself completely.
Even though it hurts when I raise my arm up and back, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though it hurts when I raise my arm fully, I love and accept myself completely.
EB: It hurts to raise my arm
SE: This tight feeling when I raise my arm
UE: I choose to move freely and easily
UN: I deserve to move freely and easily
CH: I deserve to move freely without pain
CB: I move freely and without pain
UA: I give myself permission to move freely and without pain
TH: I love to move easily in every direction without pain
With each round, my shoulder felt better and better. The range of motion in which I could move without pain increased. The next day, however, it felt tight again. I did a few more similar rounds on my own that day. Over the next week or 2, it improved to almost 100%.
I think there are several lessons here:
1. I chose to have my friend conduct the session, rather than doing everything on my own. He had more experience with pain issues, and I knew he could help me get a new perspective.
2. Even if things don’t resolve themselves right away, it doesn’t mean you haven’t made progress. Keep working at it over time and give yourself time to root out all the aspects. I was disappointed when my shoulder was tight the next day, but I kept at it.
3. Thinking metaphorically is valuable. Over the next few weeks, I continued to ask myself:
What am I shouldering?
(It’s common to hold tension in our neck and shoulders.)
What’s weighing on my shoulders?
In what area of my life did I feel “stuck” or “frozen”?
What felt immovable in my life?
What felt tight or awkward?
Where did I need more flexibility or more comfort?
What was painful in my life?
Where did I feel stuck?
After a lot of soul searching, I realized there were several areas of my life where I felt a lot of weight on my shoulders. As I have worked through these issues on my own, the pain in my shoulders has gotten better and better. I wouldn’t say it’s exactly 100% yet, but I wasn’t about to wait 1-3 years for it to get better on its own – not with EFT at my fingertips!