My friend was stuck in her weight loss efforts after being on many diets, so she asked me to help her with EFT. “Sally” wasn’t sure what was holding her back. In spite of eating healthy and going to the gym every day, her efforts were going nowhere. She was frustrated and disappointed that she couldn’t lose weight.
Sally had many “theories” about this problem. She thought it may have to do with her age (mid 50’s) and hormonal changes, since she had had a recent hysterectomy, and had to take hormone replacement therapy. She also considered the effect of stress hormones, since she had many recent changes in her life, such as moving across the country and getting married! Sally and her new husband entertained a lot, and she thought perhaps she should drink only 1 glass of wine, instead of 2-3 glasses per night.
Since she didn’t know what was causing the problem, we started with general statements, such as:
Even though these hormone changes are keeping me stuck, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though my weight won’t change no matter what I do, I love and accept myself anyway.
Even though I can’t lose weight since my hysterectomy, I accept myself anyway.
What I find is that if you just start tapping in a general way, a core issue will often come up spontaneously. In Sally’s case, she recalled having thoughts that it might not be ok with her daughter if she were thin. Sally was smaller than her adult daughter, and her daughter had expressed jealousy.
Even though it may be hurtful to my daughter to have a thin mom, I love and accept myself anyway.
Even though it might not be ok with her, it’s ok to be thin.
Even though it means our weight is different, it’s ok to be a different size than her.
Even though she was jealous, I choose to let it be ok.
Here’s what happened: Sally tapped daily on her own for the next 2 weeks, and lost 3 lb. She was thrilled! (She’s a small woman and did not have a lot of weight to lose, so even a few pounds made a big difference to her.)
She also completely lost her taste for wine, and stopped drinking it altogether. “It just doesn’t taste good anymore – it tastes metallic.” To this day, 8 months later, she does not drink wine. Mind you, she wasn’t too happy about this outcome, since she travels abroad frequently and used to enjoy wine. But, she no longer has a taste for it, and she feels that it’s her body’s way of telling her that she doesn’t need it anymore.