EFT Tips

EFT For *Deservingness*

Feeling *deserving* is often a missing element to achieving goals.

Carol Look wrote about neutralizing deserving issues for abundance, and Jasmine Bharathon offered tapping along with this deserving prayer.

I was tapping with a friend the other day and the issue of "deservingness" (is that a word?) came up.

Improving Your EFT Setup Statements

There are many ways to expand the setup statements using humor and exaggeration. I also find that Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) setup statements can be substantially improved just by a simple tweak or addition here or there. I've recently written about an easy way to create EFT setup statements.

Here's 3 additions that can be quite powerful:

1. Even though I have this (problem), I consciously choose to love and accept myself anyway.

2. Even though I have this (problem), I genuinely choose to love and accept myself anyway.

3. Even though I have this (problem), I genuinely love and forgive myself anyway.

Adding the words consciously or genuinely adds greater intentionality to the EFT statements. 

These words seem to intensify and add focus to the EFT acceptance statement. You may have said these words before, but may not have meant them in a genuine way.

And finally, self-forgiveness is often a critical part of the healing process. It's often useful as part of a daily practice.

An Easy Way To Create EFT Setup Statements

Ever wonder what to say or how to start when you sit down to do EFT?

Many people have difficulty formulating their setup statements. EFT set up statements do not have to be complicated, but if the setup statement is not correct, all the tapping in the world will not solve the problem.

Read how Dr. Tam Llewellyn eliminated an intense craving for chocolate muffins by a slight tweak in the set up statement.

Here's an easy way to create powerful EFT statements:

1. Put what you DON'T want in the left hand side of the the affirmation statement. Let's suppose you want to use EFT to stop night eating, and you don't want to overeat when you are tired.

Your statement could start out:

"Even though I feel like eating when I'm tired . . . "

"Even though I feel tired and I just want to eat . . . "

"Even though I want to overeat when I am tired . . . "

2. Put what you DO want in the right side of the affirmation statement. Think about how you WANT to feel, or how you would PREFER to feel.

"I choose to feel relaxed and energized."

"I choose to allow myself to feel tired without overeating."

"I choose to manage my fatigue without food."

3. Put the 2 parts together, and you have some powerful EFT setup statements.

"Even though I feel like eating when I am tired, I choose to feel relaxed and energized."

"Even though I feel tired and I just want to eat, I choose to allow myself to feel tired without overeating."

"Even though I want to overeat when I am tired, I choose to manage my fatigue without food."

Of course, this technique assumes that you actually WANT your cravings to go away. If you aren't sure, focus your statements on your desire to reduce cravings first.

EFT Tapping For Your Inner Brat

In a recent interview, Kirstie Alley referred to herself as a "brat" when discussing why she regained her weight. If you find your inner "brat" showing up all too often, here's a 2-minute video that shows you how to tap to avoid sabotaging your weight loss.

EFT: Handling Hurtful Words

Sometimes I don't know which is more difficult - accepting yourself or accepting others. It's hard enough to live with my own mistakes, but accepting the actions of another person seems darned near impossible. For other people, it could be the other way around. The hardest person to accept and forgive is yourself. EFT can certainly help facilitate acceptance and forgiveness. And it seems to me to be a good idea to work on both accepting yourself and others.

EFT for Weight Loss and More: See the Results

We Get What We Feel Worthy Of Having

Whenever I am working with someone, I usually throw in a statement about feeling deserving. Many people will get a charge on that word, even if they don't raise the issue. It's a good way to uncover tail enders that might be lurking in your subconscious.

Feeling worthy and deserving help move you along, and promote congruence with your goal. So, if you DON'T feel worthy of accomplishing what you want, it slows down your progress.

We get what we feel worthy of having.

I find that even the most innocent issues can be a Pandora's box. This statement helps to go deeper and get to the core issue quicker, which is usually some version of "I'm not good enough."

When using EFT for weight loss, for instance, I might add in "I deserve to lose weight" on one of the tapping points and see if that triggers anything. When using EFT for abundance,  add "I deserve to be wealthy" and see if that takes you to another level of work.