EFT Tips

EFT For Critical Remarks

Critical remarks can send you to the pantry for chocolate and derail even the most motivated dieter. In my work with EFT for Weight Loss and Binge Eating, it's important to know how to neutralize the impact of criticism and critical remarks with EFT.

During a recent teleclass on using EFT for weight loss, we discussed body image and how to manage critical remarks. One woman (I’ll call her Amy) identified 2 specific events in which she had been criticized. One was by a boyfriend at age 17, who said to her “all you have to do is slim down your thighs and you would be perfect.”

Amy struggled with perfectionism, as well as feeling like she could never live up to the expectation of others. She felt as if she needed to be perfect before she could be loved by herself or others.

EFT Success For A Binge Eater

Hi Everyone,

Carol Solomon, PhD gives important insights regarding a successful Binge Eating case. Afterwards, her client says, "For the first time in my LIFE ” on Monday night, I was given a chocolate at the end of Christmas meal with friends at a restaurant and I put it to my mouth to take a bite (habit – "in my mouth before I thought about it) and it was too sweet and I was too full ” and I held (HELD) the last 2/3rd's of it in my fingers for over 10 minutes as we were all saying goodbye and I threw it in a bin (THREW IT OUT) on the way to my car!!!"

Gary Craig (Originally published on Emofree.com)

By Carol Solomon, Ph.D.

Dear Gary,

To a binge eater, having ONE experience where you feel comfortable in your own skin is a success ” throwing away food (because you didn’t want it) is a major breakthrough. A day without binging can feel like a miracle.

I have worked with Carla for 4 sessions. She had a traumatic childhood (an abusive father). She associated food with survival, the only thing she could give herself for comfort. As a child, she promised herself that when she grew up, she could have whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted.

Carla already knew that EFT worked, since she used it to eliminate her need for her asthma inhaler. But she had not been able to stop binge eating. This problem can permeate everything you do. Carla had her life on hold. She wanted to build her business and start a new relationship, but everything felt too risky. The world was not a safe place.

First, we tapped on her belief that she can’t have what she wants, so she substitutes food.

Binge Eating Gone In 12 Sessions After Hundreds Of Hours In Traditional Therapy Failed

Binge eating has many emotional roots, many of which are often outside the client's awareness. Listen in as Carol Solomon, PhD helps her client discover, and resolve, several such issues. (Originally published on Emofree.com)

By Carol Solomon, Ph.D. MCC

My client, Carla, was aching to stop binge eating so that she could become more slender.  As much as she wanted to lose weight, Carla viewed thin people as vulnerable, exposed and weak.  She somehow feared that she would “blow away in the wind” if she became thin.  She thought she was being “shallow” in her beliefs about thin people, but it turned out to be much deeper than that – several core emotional issues emerged.

Even though I think thin people are weak, and I don’t want to be like them, I love and accept myself completely.

Even though I’m afraid I’ll blow away in the wind if I don’t eat enough…

Even though I think thin people are exposed and vulnerable…

Even though I’m not sure what this means, or how I came to believe this … it feels threatening … like I might not even exist if I don’t eat enough.

7 Keys To EFT

Hi Carol,

I'm not new to EFT and have used it whenever I felt I needed to, but only got 'spotty' results, at best. Over the past year I've been seeing more and more blogs about EFT and some of the results people have been getting. Some results were subtle and some miraculous; but, the point is, there were good results.

This is what led me to your site.  I wanted to get better and more consistent with my results.

Question:  is there 1 or 2 keys to EFT that you can recommend?   :)

Hi J,

I think you have it exactly right. EFT is a great tool that gets results - sometimes subtle, sometimes miraculous.

Off the top of my head, here are some keys -

1. Focus on feelings - many people get too bogged down in trying to find the right words, which can actually be distracting. You actually don't even need to use words if you are tuned into the feelings.

2. Identify specific events, and work on them 1 at a time, until you handle all the different aspects of each one. Start with the most intense ones first.

Z Point And EFT For Weight Loss

 The all new class on using Z Point and EFT    together for weight loss will start on October  27th - Click Here For Details

 What is Z Point? An amazing releasing technique for releasing any amount of stress and emotions, all at once, leaving you feeling peaceful and calm.

This process is SIMPLE way to reduce stress, resistance and excess emotions.

I've developed my own method of using it with EFT to accelerate weight loss.

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Giving Your Symptoms A Voice

As a personal coach, I LOVE powerful questions. The best questions are both simple and profound. 

Recently, I've been using a question that gets at the core issue quickly.

If the (symptom) could talk, what would it say?

This works particularly well for pain issues, but you could also use it for any symptom, such as "excess weight."

Then tap on whatever comes up.

Try it! You might be surprised at what your symptoms would say . . . 

With love,

Carol

EFT CD on Amazon

My EFT Weight Loss CD is now listed on Amazon. It may be a few more days until it will show up in search results.

Positive ratings and reviews are also welcome (and enormously appreciated) from anyone who may already have the CD :-)

Gary has recently published the EFT manual as a printed book.  

The newest edition is really well written, easy to understand and more complete than the earlier editions. 

EFT: Expect The Unexpected

If you've been using EFT for any length of time, you know that unexpected results are a regular occurrence. Core issues often arise (these are the issues that keep a symptom in place), and seemingly unrelated issues can magically resolve themselves when you are tapping for something else. Expecting the unexpected is probably a good stance to take. David Lake has written about hidden benefits and unexpected results. 

Also, review my article on my client's thumb pain would not improve until her relationship issues were resolved, giving us clear evidence of the link between emotional issues and physical pain. Another good one is my friend who wanted me to help her with EFT for weight loss, and ended up losing weight, as well as her taste for wine. Whatever happens is always in the client's best interest, so just be ready to be pleasantly surprised!

EFT: How Do You Want To Feel?

Whenever you have the urge to overeat (or drink, or any other addictive habit), ask yourself how you WANT to feel. Think about what you want the food to do for you. Most of the time, the answer to that question is "change how you feel." So how DO you want to feel? Visualize yourself having that feeling. To amplify the impact, tap while you are visualizing. I only use 1 point (sore spot), but you can do a full round if you want.

If I am tired at the end of a day, I want to feel energized and refreshed, so I simply massage the sore spot and visualize myself feeling that way. You'll be surprised how often you can create the feeling you want with this simple technique.

EFT and Intuition

One of the things I LOVE about EFT is the opportunity to access and use my intuition. As a coach, I have learned to trust my intuition and my willingness to share it, without being attached to being *right.* Gary Craig refers to the work being done "through me" rather than "by me." That is intuition at work -- a sense of knowing that occurs as a natural extension of our normal senses.