Changing Your Story With EFT

We all have our stories. We have a story about why we can’t lose weight (because everybody in my family is overweight . . . because I have a slow metabolism . . . because I love to eat, yadda yadda yadda). Gary Craig calls them “comedies.” These comedies are created from the writing on our walls – what we have come to believe and have been told by others.

There’s no doubt that we are attached to our stories. Even when someone tries to convince us otherwise, we don’t change our stories easily. That’s one reason why traditional counseling often doesn’t work or takes a lot longer. If the counselor only tries to convince you with logic, then it often doesn’t stick. Because we have a logic of our own, created by our own set of experiences and how we interpret them.

Luckily, as human beings, we ARE infinitely capable of changing our stories. And EFT is a great help. Working with emotions and the energy system directly is far more effective than simply trying to convince ourselves to think differently. Emotions trump logic every time. When my colleague leads me in tapping, I notice that my story starts to unravel. The practitioner can help that along by suggesting a new story or pieces of it.

For instance, when I had anxiety over a major presentation, he would use statements like “Even though I feel anxious, I can start to see myself feeling more confident . . . I can start to see myself enjoying the audience and feeling happy to be there.”

Gentle statements like these helped me to shift my story about what it would be like to be in front of the audience and how I would feel. It worked! My anxiety disappeared and I gave an awesome presentation. Of course, anxiety is something that EFT handles easily (

So what story are you hanging onto that is no longer serving you? It may be time to create a new story!

EFT For Overeating And Panic Attacks

Panicky feelings can create both panic attacks and overeating. My client views EFT as a “fool-proof method” to short-circuit her panic attacks.  It only takes 1 or 2 rounds to stop the panic attack and get back to sleep.  She has had only 1 attack in the past 4 months, and has not needed any medication.  She has also significantly reduced her overeating.

If you've ever had a panic attack, it's not something you want to repeat. While they can be managed, it's a very uncomfortable, frightening experience. Anxiety often drives overeating as well. You may be surprised by the similarities in these 2 issues. 

EFT for Stress Eating

Got stress? Most people do . . . and it’s easy to reach for food or some other substance to deal with it.

Feeling the need for chocolate?

Take a look at the sources of stress in your life, and see if your list has increased or intensified in some way. For instance, I’ve been doing some home remodeling lately — I underestimated how stressful it would be. When I took a survey of all of the changes we were making at one time — no wonder I was feeling the pressure! Fortunately, I didn’t reach for food, but I did lose sleep over it.

Make EFT a practice!

With EFT, it’s best to tap daily before stress builds up.

Even simple, general statements can do some good when practiced on a daily basis. These statements helped me get through my recent home remodeling project:

Even though I’m making a lot of changes, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though some of these changes are hard and stressful, I know I can adapt.
Even though this process is far more difficult than I anticipated, I know I’ll get through it.
Even though I feel like I’m making the wrong decisions, I deeply love and accept myself anyway.

Tapping every night after the workers left helped me to calm down and sleep better.

To read more on EFT for Anxiety (and managing my home remodeling project), go to: 

Fear of Flying and Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)

After 911, MANY people were afraid to fly (I wasn’t too thrilled myself). Back then, I was transitioning from therapist to coach, and I had only recently learned about Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).

One of my clients was a corporate executive who “had” to fly for his job. It hurt him professionally if he didn’t. But since 911, he was canceling all of his business flights.

Go here to read the report of this client’s progress and the 4-year follow up. It’s a good example of the many aspects that can arise and how they get traced back to childhood experience.

While it was frightening for me to offer Emotional Freedom Techniques to a corporate executive, being so new to it myself, I didn’t know any other technique that would get results faster.

He “had” to fly . . . now he does.