EFT Tapping For Your Inner Brat

In a recent interview, Kirstie Alley referred to herself as a “brat” when discussing why she regained her weight. If you find your inner “brat” showing up all too often, here’s a 2-minute video that shows you how to tap to avoid sabotaging your weight loss.

EFT + Heartmath

Combining EFT with other techniques intensifies their effect. One of the simplest ways to do this is to use the Heartmath breathing technique with EFT.

First, bring your focus to your heart and breathe in and out as if you are breathing through your heart. Then think about something you feel grateful for.

After a few moments, when you feel relaxed, then do a round of EFT. You can do the heart focusing exercise after the EFT if you want. This brings the heart into a state of coherence, which reduces stress and enhances intuition. It will help you to have better focus, more energy, and improved mental clarity for any issue you are working on.

P.S. The Heartmath personal stress reliever tool, which I use and LOVE, is on sale this month for stress awareness month.

EFT and Intention

The power of intention can be combined with EFT to amp up your desire.

Intention requires compassion and connection.

You can see this in examples where telepathy is highest between people in need, especially those who are already in a loving relationship, such as mother and child.

To take advantage of intention and EFT together, do the following steps:

1. Focus on your heart and feel compassion and connection to yourself.

2. Tell the universe exactly what you want in the form of an affirmation, intention or picture. It doesn’t have to be an actual picture. You can simply form a mental impression in your mind.

3. Tap a round of EFT. Tap on your affirmation if you made one, such as “I am at my perfect, slender weight of ______ lb. filled with vitality and energy.” If you are using an image, simply tap as you focus on the image.

4. Return your focus on your heart and breathe in compassion for a few moments.

The final step is simple, but may be the most difficult to do – RELAX and trust the process!


While we often apply EFT to individuals and small groups, there’s no doubt that the global economy could use our help.

All this talk of the global economy reminds me of the 1993 study where researchers conducted a two-month prospective experiment to reduce violent crime in Washington, DC.

It was hypothesized that the level of violent crime in the District of Columbia would drop significantly with the creation of a large group of participants in 2 meditation programs. The goal was to increase coherence and reduce stress in the District.

The National Demonstration Project to Reduce Violent Crime and Improve Governmental Effectiveness brought approximately 4,000 participants in the meditation programs to the US capital from June 7 to July 30, 1993. There was a highly significant decrease in violent crimes (up to 23.3%) during the demonstration project. The statistical probability that this result could reflect chance variation in crime levels was less than 2 in 1 billion.

If large groups of meditators can contribute to a reduction of violent crime rate in a city, then could a large group of people using EFT have a significant effect on the global economy?

One of the biggest factors in crime rate is poverty. It is safe to assume that if the global economy continues to decline, then both poverty rates and crime rates will increase. The sheer force in numbers of people using EFT around the world could have a significant impact.

Ernest Holmes said “where your mind goes, energy flows.” Whatever you concentrate on, you empower. Here are 10 suggestions for adopting positive practices that could impact both your own and the world’s economic status:

1. Do a 5-minute meditation on love (the opposite of fear) and/or prosperity every day. When the 5 minutes are up, use EFT statements to increase positive emotion and decrease anxiety, such as:

Even though the stock market has drastically changed, I love and accept myself completely.

Even though I have less money than I did before, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I’m anxious and fearful about what will happen, I deeply love and accept myself.

2. Incorporate gratitude exercises to focus on what you DO have, instead of what you DON’T have. This practice counteracts the fear of loss and catastrophe, and keeps a positive focus.

Even though my situation is different now, I choose to focus on what I have.

Even though things have changed, I am grateful for my safety and wellbeing.

Even though I am scared sometimes, I am grateful for my family and my health.

3. Quiet the mind. Processes like EFT and meditation help you go into ‘observer’ mode. They quiet the mind and develop your ‘observer’ quality. In meditation, they call it the ‘watchful’ quality or the ‘witness’ – the ability to take a step back and observe yourself in a calm and nonreactive way.

It’s not a matter of wrestling with the mind, but a process of quieting and disempowering it’s influence. The observer is not trying to fix everything immediately, but observe nonjudgmentally, like a sportscaster. Borrow from meditation and take a step back and observe what is happening and your reaction to whatever is scaring you. This will help you to be more objective and to remain calm. Sometimes the ‘witness’ position is the only sanctuary we have.

4. Maintain mental clarity. Anxiety can cause your mind to become clouded if you become caught up in fearful expectations. If you hear bad news, negative feelings can escalate and prevent you from taking helpful action. The most important goal during highly anxious moments is to retain mental clarity and composure. The first order of business is to slow your breathing down in order to turn off the emergency response.

Even though I am afraid for the future, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Tap around the body and focus on what you know and what you have for sure.

EB: I know I am safe in this moment.
SE: I know there are people that love me and will help me.
UE: I know that I have enough reserves to get by on.
UN: Right now, in this moment, I have enough.
CH: Right now, in this moment, I am enough.
CB: I have gotten through difficult times before.
UA: I am loved.

The second order of business is to stay rational and keep your mind clear, so that you can give yourself instructions. This is often easier said than done.

It’s like when your car breaks down in the middle of nowhere. You need to quiet your mind so that you can think and problem solve. You ask your children to be quiet so that you can think of what to do next, but they sense the tension and start talking more, in a more frenetic way, getting louder and louder. It just adds to your frustration and fear. You can’t hear yourself think and you just get more panicky by the minute.

Your mind can be like those children. Your thoughts are racing and the “noise” in the system gets louder and louder. It is exactly what you don’t need. This can also happen on a global level, where anxiety becomes the fabric of our collective consciousness.

Slowing down your runaway thoughts allows you to tune into more subtle internal cues, so that you can attend to them sooner. If you develop your capacity to self-observe, you are then able to focus on 1 thing at a time. You are more aware of stressful circumstances without overreacting. Use neutral language, such as “this situation” instead of “this crisis.”

Even though this situation seems grim, I choose to remain calm and focused.

5. Soothe anxiety with calming thoughts. People experiencing extreme anxiety make 2 mistakes: you scare yourself with thoughts of what ‘could’ happen, and you overfocus on your body and underfocus on what you can ‘do’ to stay calm.

When your “mind” takes over and makes you scared (it loves to think about the worst case scenario), use EFT to neutralize the fear and clear excess worry.

Even though I am scared right now, I choose to stay calm.

Even though I am not sure what the future will bring, I choose to stay focused on the present.

Even though our leaders don’t even agree on what to do, I choose to remain calm.

6. Erase and replace. See the world as prosperous. Examine your beliefs about scarcity and change them into beliefs about abundance. As you affirm your abundance, you may notice that you need to work on being open to receiving, and believing that you deserve to have abundance. Use EFT to change your programming and erase any “tail enders” that surface:

Even though part of me is still worried, I love and accept myself completely.

Even though I still feel afraid, I choose to focus on my prosperity.

Even though the future is uncertain, I align with my vision of prosperity.

7. Reinforce your own strength, wellbeing and capacity to handle whatever comes.

Even though I’m not sure what will happen, I choose to know I can handle whatever comes.

Even though I don’t know what’s going to happen, I choose to find strength in what I know now.

8. Use EFT in groups. From my own practice, I’ve noticed that tapping in groups of like-minded people seems to amplify it’s effects.

9. Eliminate all sources of negativity as much as possible. Anxiousness is contagious. Avoid listening to negative people and repeated reports of the same old bad news. Fear increases when you worry about the past or the future. This practice will help you stay in the present. Ultimately, the goal is to be able to feel calm no matter what is happening around you.

10. In order to get through difficult times, it may pay to view it as a spiritual journey. There is a great spiritual maturity in accepting who you are and where you are now. Where there is fear, there is opportunity. This is a great opportunity to get your priorities in order and to consider what is most important in life.

Choose a prosperous mantra and repeat it as you tap throughout the day, such as:

The world is conspiring in my favor.

Today I choose to focus on my source, which is my unlimited supply.

Right now, in this moment, I have everything I need.

I love myself enough to allow more money to flow into my life.

Right now, in this moment, the world is healing itself.

Tap into your inner prosperity and avoid getting caught up in the worldwide panic and anxiousness. It’s quite possible that as we use EFT to reduce our own anxiety around finances and increase our focus on abundance, our influence will spread and the global economy will improve. Here’s to making a difference!

EFT: Handling Hurtful Words

Sometimes I don’t know which is more difficult – accepting yourself or accepting others. It’s hard enough to live with my own mistakes, but accepting the actions of another person seems darned near impossible. For other people, it could be the other way around. The hardest person to accept and forgive is yourself. EFT can certainly help facilitate acceptance and forgiveness. And it seems to me to be a good idea to work on both accepting yourself and others.

Continue reading

We Get What We Feel Worthy Of Having

Whenever I am working with someone, I usually throw in a statement about feeling deserving. Many people will get a charge on that word, even if they don’t raise the issue. It’s a good way to uncover tail enders that might be lurking in your subconscious.

Feeling worthy and deserving help move you along, and promote congruence with your goal. So, if you DON’T feel worthy of accomplishing what you want, it slows down your progress.

We get what we feel worthy of having.

I find that even the most innocent issues can be a Pandora’s box. This statement helps to go deeper and get to the core issue quicker, which is usually some version of "I’m not good enough."

When using EFT for weight loss, for instance, I might add in "I deserve to lose weight" on one of the tapping points and see if that triggers anything. When using EFT for abundance,  add "I deserve to be wealthy" and see if that takes you to another level of work.