How To Lose Your Appetite

Appetite out of control?

Here’s an easy way to decrease it (I discovered this quite by accident.)

Here’s what happened:

I was experimenting using Z Point in a passive way – by just playing my Z Point CD in the background.

I put it on with very low volume, so that I wouldn’t be distracted by it. Then I started working and basically forgot about it.

Here’s what I noticed:

1.) my shoulders were relaxed (not up into my ears, like they can be sometimes when I am working long hours at my desk.)

2.) no appetite throughout the day (often I get up periodically to eat.)

3.) my weight was down the next day… hmmm.

Anyway – just an experiment. But what could be easier than that?

Join me at the next Z Point Class on January 19th The CD I used is included (free shipping!)

Is It Safe To Lose Weight?

Hi Everyone,

Carol Solomon, PhD successfully focuses on an important issue for her binge-eating client. Note both the background story and the language details. Please consult physicians on all medical issues.

Gary Craig (Originally published on Emofree.com)

By Carol Solomon, PhD

Dear Gary,

Sue was a binge eater who seemed to sabotage herself at every turn. She tried everything and lost weight many times, only to gain it back and more. She described her eating as being “like a runaway train. She ate to relieve stress. She ate to celebrate. She ate for every emotion she ever felt. And she felt like a failure.

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EFT For Ice Cream Cravings

I teach a 3-week teleclass on “EFT for Weight Loss.” On the first call, I have people bring food to the call, so we can tap for cravings in the moment.

After the first round, almost everyone’s craving was down, except 1 woman, who I’ll call “Jannie.”

Jannie was tapping on her craving for ice cream, although she didn’t bring it to the call because “unless someone delivered it as I dialed in, I would have eaten it the minute it came in the house!”

We tapped for cravings:

Even though I have this craving, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I really want this food right now, I deeply accept myself with compassion and grace.

Even though I have this urge to eat, I choose to find a new and surprising way to manage the
craving.

EB: this craving
SE:  this craving
UE:  this craving
UN:  this craving
CH:  this craving
CB:  this craving
UA:  this craving
TH:  this craving

Her craving went from a 10 to a 2. But she was still worried
that if someone put a bowl of ice cream in front of her, she would eat it, or
that the craving could be triggered again in a stressful situation.

So we tapped more:

Even though I don’t quite want to let it go, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though I’m afraid I’ll still want it, I love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I have these cravings that are triggered by stress, I choose to know I can manage it.

Even though I want things I think I shouldn’t have, I choose to love and believe in myself.

EB: these cravings
SE: triggered by stress
UE: I can’t quite release it
UN: I’m still hanging on
CH: It’s triggered by stress
CB: I’m afraid I might still want it
UA: I don’t quite trust it yet
TH: I choose to believe in myself

Between the 1st and 2nd  call, Jannie did buy a quart of ice cream. It stayed in her refrigerator for 12 hours (11 hours and 59 minutes longer than usual!) When she opened it, she just ate the cherries out and threw the rest away. She hasn’t purchased any since and has no desire to get any.

On the 3rd call, we tapped for specific events. Jannie came up with 5 events that had an emotional charge.  These specific events all occurred when she was between 7 – 15 years old. They all had to do with her parents and with her being denied something. She picked “my mother eating ice cream every evening after dinner and I was not allowed any.”

Jannie’s mother was a 105 lb., 5’2″ extremely beautiful woman who took very good care of herself and her home. She loved ice cream, so every evening she’d go to the freezer, pile (mound, actually) the ice cream in her salad bowl-sized dish and curl up at the end of the sofa and eat it slowly bite by bite.

Jannie was not allowed to have any, ever–because she was a chubby kid and early adolescent and “Jannie doesn’t get sweets” was a house rule.

This is a great example of what was written on Jannie’s walls about ice cream. At some point in her life, Jannie made a decision, based on her interpretation of these childhood experiences. She described it in her letter to me following the class:

“When I decide to get ice cream, I always tell myself “I deserve it”– not as a reward–just I deserve it. I never could figure this out because I am someone who is actually more humble than this and hugely grateful for my life and all I have been given….

Carol, this is phenomenal for me—it finally makes sense, perfect sense actually. I did deserve it when those energies were stuck in the denial from my mother. When I tapped through all those issues around ice cream: being denied, feeling I deserved it, that I could have it anytime I wanted it, accepting my mother for who she was able to be and loving her anyway, I felt a great relief.  I am at ZERO now with ice cream. And what I love most of all is that it finally makes sense to me!

I remembered she always had gallons of ice cream around as well as all kinds of candy–I wondered why I didn’t just go eat all that stuff anyway (I was not an obedient child). Then I remembered (funny, I had forgotten) my parents had a lock on the freezer and a cupboard with a padlock in the kitchen with her goodies to keep me out!

So it occurred to me: why have I never chowed down on all of those things all the time since I left home and have the freedom to do so?

My eating is typically very healthy (I never have anything in the house that is tempting to me) and I am 20 lb. overweight but this is more due to orthopedic injuries though the years from exercise and now the hormonal mid-life middle than poor eating.

In class #1, you said to me that I needed to trust myself. That resonated because, although I do really well, I strategically and stringently set up my environment to keep temptations out–always.

So my next revelation is: goodies locked up by my parents . . . I cannot be trusted, but I love all those goodies, so I essentially “lock up” all the goodies I’d love because I don’t trust myself. So when you said I needed to trust myself I actually felt your words in my heart right then and now that I’ve figured it out, I feel such peace in knowing I can trust myself.

So Carol, this has been amazing for me and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. What I find with you is your insights and words bring normalcy to me and you make beautiful sense and connections and I feel all this so profoundly.

I thank you so much Carol for pursuing this with me–I just read that victims will feel a sense of entitlement–and that resonates with me…in thinking “I deserve this ice cream! Wow!”

In a 4-month follow up, Jannie wrote to say that her results have held up, even under stressful circumstances. She tapped one more time, 2 weeks after the class ended. She writes “I must tell you that ice cream is so far out of the picture for me now.

The true test has been my husband needing surgery and me needing “something” for comfort–ice cream never even crossed my mind! I’ve been happily choosing berries, cherries and grapes instead! This is an absolute miracle!!! Thank you, thank you!”

How NOT To Break An Ice Cream Habit

Recently I recorded a program for my audio club on using EFT for Night Eating with my colleague, Dr. Judy.  We did a demo on her (very real) habit of eating sweets at night.

When I asked for her feedback, this is what she wrote:

Just 2 nights ago, I was REALLY craving. I thought of you and DID tap. And I am not kidding, the desire went away, TOTALLY.

I said, “I am enough. I am full of life. I am already full. I feel happy. I feel satisfied. I feel full of life already.” Only a few seconds of tapping, too. Nothing long and drawn out. That was the best part.

And the next morning, I was really happy and proud of myself! And I decided ice cream is just too much of a trigger for me. So I will not be buying it for while.

I have tapped other times as well. here’s the interesting part. and it is naughty!

A couple times I KNEW it would work, so I didn’t tap! I WANTED to eat that ice cream and I did. I allowed it to fly by for two nights. Then the third night, after I had felt “full” emotionally, I tapped.

And I didn’t eat that time either, didn’t even want to.

There you have it! If you want to keep your night eating habit, just DON’T tap!

P.S. This could mean that you are psychologically reversed, in which case, you will NOT do what you know will help you . . . like tapping 🙂

EFT for Increasing Desire For Healthy Food

Andi Whitaker recently wrote an article on how to enjoy certain foods and increase sensory experience. It got me thinking that some people would like to increase their desire for healthy food.

Some of my clients say they don't like salad, or can't eat raw vegetables because it makes them think of dieting, and actually gives them cravings for junk food.

What if you could increase your desire for healthy, low calorie food and decrease desire for fattening, unhealthy foods? It seems that this would be a simple task with EFT.

Even though I don't like salad, I love and accept myself anyway.

Even though eating salad makes me feel like I'm on a diet, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Even though eating raw carrots makes me feel deprived, I love and accept myself completely.

Even though I only like junk food, that's what tastes good, I love and accept myself anyway.

The only real question here is – do you really WANT to give up junk food? Some people don't – they just think they *should*.

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EFT Helps A Stubborn Weight Loss Problem When Nothing Else Works

My friend was stuck in her weight loss efforts after being on many diets, so she asked me to help her with EFT. “Sally” wasn’t sure what was holding her back. In spite of eating healthy and going to the gym every day, her efforts were going nowhere. She was frustrated and disappointed that she couldn’t lose weight.

Sally had many “theories” about this problem. She thought it may have to do with her age (mid 50’s) and hormonal changes, since she had had a recent hysterectomy, and had to take hormone replacement therapy. She also considered the effect of stress hormones, since she had many recent changes in her life, such as moving across the country and getting married! Sally and her new husband entertained a lot, and she thought perhaps she should drink only 1 glass of wine, instead of 2-3 glasses per night.

Since she didn’t know what was causing the problem, we started with general statements, such as:

Even though these hormone changes are keeping me stuck, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though my weight won’t change no matter what I do, I love and accept myself anyway.
Even though I can’t lose weight since my hysterectomy, I accept myself anyway.

What I find is that if you just start tapping in a general way, a core issue will often come up spontaneously. In Sally’s case, she recalled having thoughts that it might not be ok with her daughter if she were thin. Sally was smaller than her adult daughter, and her daughter had expressed jealousy.

Even though it may be hurtful to my daughter to have a thin mom, I love and accept myself anyway.
Even though it might not be ok with her, it’s ok to be thin.
Even though it means our weight is different, it’s ok to be a different size than her.
Even though she was jealous, I choose to let it be ok.

Here’s what happened: Sally tapped daily on her own for the next 2 weeks, and lost 3 lb. She was thrilled! (She’s a small woman and did not have a lot of weight to lose, so even a few pounds made a big difference to her.)

She also completely lost her taste for wine, and stopped drinking it altogether. “It just doesn’t taste good anymore – it tastes metallic.” To this day, 8 months later, she does not drink wine. Mind you, she wasn’t too happy about this outcome, since she travels abroad frequently and used to enjoy wine. But, she no longer has a taste for it, and she feels that it’s her body’s way of telling her that she doesn’t need it anymore.

Emotional Freedom: Is Weight Loss Safe?

From my EFT weight loss inbox: “Does it matter whether we “lose” weight, which means that we will find it again, or whether we choose to ‘eliminate’ or  ‘remove’ weight?”

First of all, when we “lose” weight, we don’t necessarily “find” it again, as in when you “lose” your keys. If you believe you will find it again, then you probably will. The self-fulfilling prophecy is a very powerful principle. So one thing to do to maintain weight loss with EFT is to change your beliefs to be more congruent with your goal.

Our bodies are made to store fat for survival. They do not like dieting or starvation, so they resist it. To your body, it doesn’t feel “safe” to lose weight because it doesn’t know when the next meal is coming. A lot of times, we don’t “trust” our bodies either.

Think of fat cells as little water balloons. The less you fill them (by eating healthy) and then exercising (especially cardio or anything that makes you sweat), is like draining the water out of those balloons. While the cells are still there, they are less significant.

Safety issues can extend beyond our physical bodies. For instance, when someone does not want something that could occur as the result of losing weight, such as unwanted attention or increased expectations from others, they sabotage themselves (see Lose Weight With EFT, chapter 10 Preventing Self Sabotage). Even though it’s the result you want, on some level, it doesn’t feel safe to get it.

The language you use is not as important as giving yourself permission to accomplish what you want, and making sure that you feel safe. If you don’t feel safe, you are creating resistance. Use language that you feel comfortable with (some people prefer “releasing” weight) and tap for any safety issues.

Even though I don’t feel safe, I give myself permission to release this weight.

Even though it doesn’t feel safe, it’s ok to lose weight.

Even though it’s not safe, I give myself permission to let it go.

Then in the reminder phrases, affirm your safety, as well as your love and belief in yourself.

It’s ok to lose weight.
I am safe.
I love and believe in myself.
I accept myself completely.
It is safe to lose weight.
I give myself permission to lose weight.
I choose to feel safe.
I can handle whatever comes.

Happy tapping!

Why EFT Works For Weight Loss

Here’s an explanation of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) for weight loss — how and why it works.

Gary has written extensively on his site about the way weight loss works, at least the way it is supposed to work . . . you know, that basic mathematical formula . . . expend more than you take in, and you’ll lose weight. But the advice we have all heard (eat less . . . exercise more) isn’t all that helpful.

Why is that?

One simple reason — there are emotions behind eating that interfere with the desire to lose weight.

I don’t have to tell you that obesity is at epidemic proportions. 2/3 of Americans are overweight. Diabetes eats up $1 of every $5 spent on healthcare. A recent study at Harvard showed that obesity may soon surpass tobacco as the #1 cause of cancer deaths.

At least 95% of dieters fail, and will regain their weight and more within 2 years.

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The mechanism of EFT for emotional eating and weight loss
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Something very subtle is at the root of emotional eating. Unresolved emotional issues or traumatic events create blocks or disruptions in the body’s subtle energy system. These blocks create an “anxiety short circuit,” which in turn, causes someone to overeat.

The overeating calms the anxiety, but at the expense of consuming too many calories.

EFT is very soothing and relaxing. It usually removes the anxiety, and with the anxiety gone, the drive for emotional eating disappears. Further EFT helps to reprogram your energy system, so that you eat for nutrition, rather than having to tranquilize emotions.

It’s very similar to acupuncture in that way. People say that acupuncture is very relaxing. EFT has the same effect.

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2 Ways To Help
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EFT helps people resolve emotional issues because it addresses the energy imbalance as well as the negative emotions that are creating the energy imbalance. As you resolve your emotional issues at a deep energetic level using EFT, your self-defeating overeating behaviors will likely diminish or disappear, usually permanently.

This all happens without willpower. The tendency to respond to emotional issues by consuming food often fades. You are then freer to make other choices in response to emotions.

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Addictive Cravings
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Simply put, the cravings we get are often a result of stress, anxiety or another emotional event. Learning to deal with these moments without tranquilizing yourself with food can make a big difference in your ability to lose weight.

People generally pay too much attention to external factors, such as obsessively counting calories, and not enough attention to internal factors, such as emotions and what’s going on inside.

Our bodies can actually crave high sugar and high fat foods in an attempt to medicate ourselves into a calmer state (we don’t like to be upset) when we are avoiding our emotions or feeling a lot of stress.

When we are in those emotional or stressful states, our body’s energy flow is blocked or disrupted, creating a zzzzzzt in the system, like a short circuit.

EFT can eliminate those cravings almost instantly.

It works like acupuncture to stimulate the meridian system to bring it back into balance. Many people choose EFT as a confidential way to work on emotional overeating issues. The key is using EFT regularly, if necessary. Many people just try it out and stop if they don’t get results right away.

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How Else Can EFT Help For Weight Loss?
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Besides stopping addictive cravings, EFT can help manage and sort out the emotions that drive them. We all know that it’s not as simple as “eat less . . . exercise more.” Simply managing the frustration and discouragement around weight loss issues is phenomenal.

EFT can help manage negative thoughts, such as “I’ll never lose weight, so why bother?” These thoughts are self-sabotaging in nature, and counterproductive.

Stopping self-sabotage is an essential piece of the weight loss puzzle. After all, what good is weight loss if you can’t hang onto it?

Additional resources:

EFT CDS FOR WEIGHT LOSS

HOW TO STOP FOOD CRAVINGS AND LOSE WEIGHT WITH EFT

Emotional Freedom Techniques: Food Cravings Gone!

I had an interesting chat with a woman in my audio program on the phone the other day. She told me a quick story about using EFT for food cravings.

“I had an urge for a bag of Cheetos!” she said. (We all know the feeling!) She didn’t exactly know how to use EFT, but she had read a little bit about it.

So she tapped on the karate chop point and said “I love and accept myself exactly as I am. Cheetos don’t bring me happiness. Losing weight does.”

She just kept tapping on that 1 point, and the craving went away. I love this story for several reasons.

She dove in even though she wasn’t sure exactly what to do. She just said what she was feeling and didn’t worry about getting the words “perfect.”

It shows the incredible flexibility (and power) of EFT. It can work . . . even if you’re a beginner . . . and even if you aren’t sure what to do. Now how cool is that?

I love the affirmation of self acceptance (“I love and accept myself exactly as I am.”) So often we want to be different so badly, we just can’t accept ourselves as we are right now. This is an important step not to skip and it is built into EFT set up statements.

Tapping in an affirmation (“Cheetos don’t bring me happiness. Losing weight does”) seems to make the affirmation far more effective. I like tools that can amplify an already positive process.

Have you had an experience with cravings? Love to hear it! Leave a comment below.

How Mary’s Self Sabotage Kept Her From Slimming Down

Mary wanted to lose weight, but she kept sabotaging herself. Being a gifted and highly skilled therapist, Mary understood the reasons. When she was a child, Mary’s mother saw Mary as a competitor. Her mother was constantly obsessed with Mary’s body, pressuring her to eat and then hounding her to lose weight. By age 9, Mary was compulsively overeating and afraid to lose her mother’s approval. Mary’s mother scrutinized everything she ate and began bringing her to diet doctors by age 11, even though she was never grossly overweight.

Mary was constantly criticized. By age 16, her mother would say things to her, like “you look like an oak tree – your legs look like tree trunks.” Obsessed with her own weight, her mother was full of rage and envy toward Mary anytime she would achieve success. Mary feared for her life.

Even though Mary understood that it was her mother’s issue, it still affected her well into adulthood. Mary was afraid of losing her mother’s love, afraid to be successful and afraid to lose weight. Pleasing mom meant staying heavier than her. She tried to avoid compliments or praise, and sabotaged her own success because it didn’t feel safe. Her mother continually gave her intense mixed messages about food, weight and success.
“If I lost weight, she would stuff me with food and then scream at me for eating. If I didn’t eat, she’d say – you didn’t like my food!” It wasn’t ok to be thinner or smarter or to outshine her mother in any way. As a result, if Mary did lose weight or if anything was going well, she would feel guilty and undo it. If she had a perfect eating day, for instance, she would “overeat at night to wipe out the goodness of the day.”

Even now as an adult, if something goes well, she expects an onslaught of criticism and punishment to follow success.

Even though it’s not OK to lose weight, I deeply love and accept myself.
Even though it’s not safe to change, I love and accept myself completely.
Even though it’s not OK with mom and it doesn’t feel safe to me, I accept myself anyway.

Eyebrow: It’s really scary to change
Side of Eye: it’s too scary to lose weight
Under the Eye: I’d lose my mom
Under the Nose: She’d be angry
Chin: I can see by the look on her face
Collarbone: It would be too scary
Under the Arm: It’s dangerous
Top of Head: I’m afraid she’ll kill me
Eyebrow: It’s not ok to outshine her or any other woman
Side of Eye: It’s too scary to get thin
Under the Eye: She wants me to get thin
Under the Nose: But not really . . .
Chin: It keeps me stuck
Collarbone: And I’m sabotaging myself
Under the Arm: It’s too scary to be successful
Top of Head: It holds me back
Eyebrow: I’m not supposed to look good
Side of Eye: I like the attention and I don’t like the attention (she laughs)
Under the Eye: I want to lose weight and I don’t want to lose weight
Under the Nose: Isn’t that the truth?
Chin: I hate admitting that!
Collarbone: I feel stupid and it’s not ok to be smart
Under the Arm: It’s not ok to be in the limelight
Top of Head: It’s not ok to get attention
Note: It’s often helpful to tap on the specific words that were said.
Eyebrow: She said I look like an oak tree
Side of Eye: She said my legs look like tree trunks
Under the Eye: That hurt
Under the Nose: I know that she had her own problems
Chin: And it’s time to let this heal
Collarbone: I’m ready to let go of all this . . . all of these issues . . . all of these emotions . . . all of this stuckness . . . all of this sabotage
Under the Arm: It might even be ok to lose a little weight
Top of Head: What if it was ok to look good and be smart, even if mom didn’t approve?
Eyebrow: She could criticize me and that’s her issue
Side of Eye: I’ve decided not to compete
Under the Eye: I’ve decided to remove myself from competition
Under the Nose: I don’t want to take anything away from her
Chin: It’s all she has
Collarbone: Maybe it’s not such a big issue anymore
Under the Arm: I want to lose weight for my health and for my self-confidence and not sabotage it . . . not be worried about mom.
Top of Head: I’m ready to release this weight
Eyebrow: I’m tired of being stuck
Side of Eye: I’m ready to allow my success
Under the Eye: I deserve to allow my success
Under the Nose: I want to feel safe around other women
Chin: Even if I show my smarts
Collarbone: Even if I look darned good
Under the Arm: I can just enjoy it and not have to worry about them
Top of Head: I give myself permission
Eyebrow: It’s ok to look good
Side of Eye: It’s ok to BE good
Under the Eye: It’s ok to be smart
Under the Nose: I can allow my success
Chin: I have decided to enjoy feeling successful
Collarbone: I deserve success
Under the Arm: I deserve to feel safe
Top of Head: I have decided to allow myself to be successful

At this point, Mary recalled memories of feeling very uncomfortable if she didn’t eat. Her mom would become enraged and sharply criticize her.

Even though I undo my success in order to please mom, I deeply love and accept myself.
Even though it doesn’t feel safe to have a good eating day, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway and I’m open to forgiveness.
Even though I feel like I have to eat or mom will be mad, I love and accept myself anyway.

Eyebrow: I have to eat
Side of Eye: I have to get something
Under the Eye: Or mom will be mad
Under the Nose: I don’t want to be criticized
Chin: I feel like I have to eat
Collarbone: It’s uncomfortable if I don’t eat
Under the Arm: I have to please mom
Top of Head: She’s be mad if I lose weight
Eyebrow: I can’t let that happen
Side of Eye: I have to undo it
Under the Eye: I have to get something to eat even if I’m not hungry
Under the Nose: I am open to creating a new story
Chin: Mom can’t even see me now
Collarbone: She doesn’t even know if I’m eating or not
Under the Arm: I can now start to see myself as being successful AND feeling good
Top of Head: It’s ok to be successful without feeling guilty

What occurred to me during this session is how important it is to love and accept ourselves, and how hard it can be if the key people in our lives aren’t accepting us the way we are. The opposite of self-sabotage is ‘allowing,’ and in order to be successful, we need to ‘allow’ it. It seems simple and makes sense logically, but the “writing on our walls” often gets in the way. EFT can clear these stubborn blocks, which can thwart people for decades.

After this 1 session, Mary began to steadily lose weight; she went from a size 16 to a size 10 over the next 3 months. She noticed other significant changes as well. Mary had always felt guilty for the ease in which she filled her therapy practice. She had been giving away her best referrals to her female colleagues “to make it up to them.” After this session, she no longer felt she had to take care of them. She stopped giving away her best referrals, and began to enjoy her well-deserved success without feeling guilty. She also received an unexpected acknowledgment in the forward of a book that was published. She was pleasantly surprised that she was able to take pride in and enjoy her work being recognized.

With love and gratitude,
Carol Solomon, Ph.D. MCC