We all have our stories. We have a story about why we can’t lose weight (because everybody in my family is overweight . . . because I have a slow metabolism . . . because I love to eat, yadda yadda yadda). Gary Craig calls them “comedies.” These comedies are created from the writing on our walls – what we have come to believe and have been told by others.
There’s no doubt that we are attached to our stories. Even when someone tries to convince us otherwise, we don’t change our stories easily. That’s one reason why traditional counseling often doesn’t work or takes a lot longer. If the counselor only tries to convince you with logic, then it often doesn’t stick. Because we have a logic of our own, created by our own set of experiences and how we interpret them.
Luckily, as human beings, we ARE infinitely capable of changing our stories. And EFT is a great help. Working with emotions and the energy system directly is far more effective than simply trying to convince ourselves to think differently. Emotions trump logic every time. When my colleague leads me in tapping, I notice that my story starts to unravel. The practitioner can help that along by suggesting a new story or pieces of it.
For instance, when I had anxiety over a major presentation, he would use statements like “Even though I feel anxious, I can start to see myself feeling more confident . . . I can start to see myself enjoying the audience and feeling happy to be there.”
Gentle statements like these helped me to shift my story about what it would be like to be in front of the audience and how I would feel. It worked! My anxiety disappeared and I gave an awesome presentation. Of course, anxiety is something that EFT handles easily (http://www.StopAnxietyWithEFT.com)
So what story are you hanging onto that is no longer serving you? It may be time to create a new story!